FW 5.12 How to Increase Your Social Circle

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We are still in Pamphlet 5 of the original 1922 Fascinating Womanhood pamphlets, Chapter X.  I've used a static picture on this video so that you can work around the house while listening:

 


The three subtitles covered in this video are:

A Sure Way to Meet Men; Making Use of an Escort; and Another Way to Increase Your Social Activity

We discuss how to be a great hostess, Miss Snub, Debbie Downers, and other important guests - the few choice women who will help your get-together be a success.  Learn to be one of these "choice spirits" and you'll be invited to their soirees, as well.  Why is it so easy to meet men when you are the Hostess?

I mention FW5.8 Do you act like a Leah? Or a Rachel?


I share tips I've learned after joining three new groups this past year.

Be sure to banish these questions upon meeting a new person:

  • What do you do? 
  • Where are you from?  
  • How are you doing? 

What questions should you ask instead? 

  • Have you worked on anything exciting lately?
  • How do you like to spend your days? (Never "What do you do?")
  • Do you have any vacations coming up that you are excited about? or
  • Do you have a favorite place you like to vacation?
  • Did anything good happen to you today?
  • How did you come to live in this city?

If you are nervous about having to speak in front of a group, don't say "I'm nervous." Say, "I'm excited to be here!"

Why should you wave when you greet someone new?

Should you, or shouldn't you, "nod" to someone?

Is a nod to a man with your head down becoming or unbecoming?

I suggest reading Modern Etiquette Made Easy A Five-Step Method to Mastering Etiquette by Myka Meier, and from the chapter Social Swan in her book I go over:

  • how to recognize a closed or open group of people, 
  • how to recognize the most friendly person versus the leader of a group,
  • how to discourage encroachment upon your personal space, 
  • how to remember a person's name, 
  • what to say when you forget a person's name - not "I've forgotten your name" but, "Please excuse me, but can you remind me of your name?"

If you would like more interesting questions to ask new people, or a man on your first date, or even your own husband at a dinner out, listen to FW3.7  Charming, Contented and Gracious 


May God bless you as you search for your spouse, or as you seek to uplift your own marriage.

Janine

PS: I highly recommend this book for married or soon-to-be married women: The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle     LauraDoyle.org


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