FW5.13 How to Make it Easy for the Right Man to Find You

Hello, Beautiful Homemakers! 

We are ending Chapter X today of the 1922 original Fascinating Womanhood pamphlets. 

You don't need to be richer, or thinner or prettier.  Just be conscious of your good habits, rid yourself of your bad habits, and be your best self: confident, kind, and JOYOUS!

To understand how to better communicate with men, I highly suggest reading Laura Doyle's book The Empowered Wife (the Updated Version).

Feel free to ignore what does not apply to you!

Here are a few places mentioned from How to Make it Easy for the Right Man to Find YOU:

• Church 
• Sunday School
• Park
• Friends
• Shows
• Fairs
• Exhibitions
• Games
• Sports
• Parades
• Picnics
• Conventions 
• Girlfriends from:
• Dance class
• Gym class
• Night school
• Circles or
  
• Classes of any kind, will help you meet their brothers, cousins, and friends.
  

"The stay-at-home girl often makes the best wife - but how impossible it is for the right man to find her!"

I did A LOT of research and talked to people and came up with many more places that I go into detail about.

High quality men can be found in high-quality places, with the number one place being, of course...church and church events.  What if the church only has "grey-hairs?"  Let the Lord lead you to your church!  [churches of Christ worldwide  or  churches of Christ in the USA]

Do things in the area you would like to live in.  What sort of things?  I discuss this.  What should you wear?

Can you really meet a man in a grocery store?  How about at:

• Fundraisers
• Museums 
• Art galleries
• Classical music concerts
• Plays
• Exhibits
• Enhance your knowledge by
• Clubs, and country clubs - I mention MANY at the end of the video
  
• Board on organization you love
• After parties of events - how do you get invited?
• Sports
• Lunch -  where?
• Posh gyms
• Pilates
  
• Horseback riding
• Golfing 
• University library
  
• Hospital cafeteria
• Tournaments and Games - I list several types - put it out there - your wish to attend in a VIP section
  
• Post-victory parties
• VIP sections
• High-end sports bars - how will you stand out in a good way amidst the scantily clad women?  You will be the one.... and you won't be the one _______________.
  
• Political party events
• Conferences
• Fundraisers and other charity events
• Promotional events
• Movie premieres
  
• Industry parties where you want your future husband to work - what are the positives and negatives of this industry?  Be prepared
• Festivals
• Design Expos
• Art shows
• Yacht shows, car shows, Formula One races, etc.
  
• Antique fairs
• Auctions
• Every private party you are invited to
• Shooting range
• Sit on the board of your favorite charity
• 5 Star hotel amenities - be prepared for valet parking
• Specific interest clubs
  
• Networking clubs
• Business class lounges in airports
  
• Plane seatmates
• Dating apps:
• Elite Singles
• Luxy
• Millionaire Match
• The League
• Inner Circle
• E-Harmony
• Neighbors
• Blind date set-ups
• Birthday parties
• School reunions
  
• Weddings
• Neighbor's party
  
• PTA  
• Never turn down a dinner

I quickly go over what you shouldn't do or wear on a first date, and the kind of women men do not marry.

Level up your manners and decorum. You don't need to look like a supermodel, but you do need to be looking your best! 

To attract a worthy man, you must first be worthy of him.

I discuss meeting men in grocery stores, and how my husband was dressed when I met him.  I immediately zeroed in on the hole in his cuff!  I'm so glad I didn't mention it - listen to find out why. 

We test men, and men test us.

The only way to meet a man is to ___________ at him and say _____________ first.

Awkward men are the norm.  Single men aren't wonderful husbands when they are single! Men will not live up to your illusion of what he should be.

I tell the story of a young, beautiful, shy woman who was interested in the boy-man at her college library.

50% of men want to do all the pursuing.  The other 50% are so cautious, that YOU might be the one who must approach first.

 

The most important factor is to PRAY.  Pray for God to bring that special man into your life.  Pray for him every day.

Be patient. Hold high to your self-ideals, but realize that your ideals for others might not be realistic.

 Commit yourself to God and pray that He will give you meaningful ways to uplift others while you are waiting.

Prepare yourself by practicing the homemaking arts.  Go to the library, Section 640-649, and begin  reading about:

• homemaking
• finance 
• decor
• nursing
• childbirth
• homeschooling
• cooking
• laundry

 

• 640 Home & family management
• 641 Food & drink
• 642 Meals & table service
• 643 Housing & household equipment
• 644 Household utilities
• 645 Household furnishings
• 646 Sewing, clothing, management of personal and family life
• 647 Management of public households (Institutional housekeeping)
• 648 Housekeeping
• 649 Child rearing; home care of people with disabilities & illnesses

Don't waste these years!  Save your money, become debt-free, and prepare to come well-equipped for your marriage.

May God bless you during these waiting years,

Janine

Resources I mentioned throughout the video are:

Small talk conversation starters in last video (FW5.12 and FW 3.7)

7 Days to Sex Appeal book (link to Amazon)

Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood book starts with this video:

 

The Empowered Wife book to buy

 

Pamphlets 3 & 4  (speed it up to 2x) of the original FW pamphlets (link takes you to the playlist)

 

Home Comforts the ultimate homemaking book!

 

And while this video was made for men, it applies equally to women in many ways:

 

Married Ladies - please tell us in the comments here, or on YouTube - where did you meet your spouse?

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