FW 5.15 The Superior Male

Hello, Beautiful Homemakers!  Today we are finishing up chapter 11 of the 1922 original Fascinating Womanhood pamphlets, AND we are finishing Pamphlet 5!

We will be discussing the next two secrets about men's peculiarities:  Their armor of reserve; and we will learn about his secret desire.

Every Man's Secret Reserve:  "This reserve is the second characteristic which we wish to emphasize as highly important in influencing a man's attitude toward woman."

"The man of finer caliber is equally reluctant to expose his intimate, secret hopes and fears to indifference or antagonism.  The prospect of callous underestimation or sinister inference is nothing less than appalling to him.  He therefore sternly subdues every impulse to seek sympathy or appreciation.  Nothing but the absolute certainty of receiving it [sympathetic understanding] will induce him to throw off his armor of reserve, and to give an inkling to others of the things that mean most to him.  Even then, the slightest hint of misunderstanding or disrespect will shatter the illusion and drive him into his shell again."

We then continue the story of Jim and his tete-a-tete on the front porch.  

Make this mistake and your relationship is OVER: "Let the girl but intimate by word, a yawn, a glance even, that the things he is now divulging, the fondest ideals of his life, are a matter of indifference to her, and Jim will wince as if struck with a lash. It may be the first time in his life he has ventured thus to express his feelings.  To him, therefore, the confession is a matter of prime importance, over which he has probably pondered for days....  If the girl looks indifferently upon such a crisis, and fails to recognize its significance to him, she has indeed, so far as he is concerned, a heart of stone. Thenceforce, no matter where or when he meets her, he will not again risk a similar rebuff."

"His longing for understanding, great as it is, is not sufficient to make him throw off his habitual cloak of reserve except in rare instances; and even then he will quickly resume it again unless he can bask in the full glow of an all-comprehending sympathy." 

Men need sympathetic understanding, but getting him to overcome his reserve is difficult.  He must really trust you!

The Craving to Act the Part of the Superior Male.  Sometime ago we learned that many women act the role of the Superior Wife.  This is a strong turnoff to men that often leads to divorce (or to no second dates - this was discussed in the book Why He Didn't Call You Back).  

Every man has the desire and craving to "act the part of the man - the ideal man who is the guide, protector, and provider."  Women who can act the part of "seeming utterly dependent upon his manly care" win men over more quickly than their peers who act the part of being able to "kill their own snakes."  For more information about that, please listen to pamphlets 3 and 4 (especially chapter 7 in pamphlet 4).

A Suggestion of Tremendous Advantage: "There is all the difference in the world between merely reading a book like this, and digesting and assimilating it."  Listen to the playlists, write notes, "refer to them daily, put them into use whenever you can, and when ever you do use one of the suggestions, make a brief note about that. You will be surprised and delighted by the result.  It will be richly worthwhile."

That is the end of Pamphlet 5, but not the end of my stories!  You'll have to listen to the end of the video for those.

May God bless you as you learn to know your man better by overcoming his secret reserve, and allowing him to play the part of the Superior Male,

Janine